There comes the quiet stillness, in the moments between interactive moments, that I take in and sit with my thoughts. This allows some composition of intermingling thought patterns to arise and flow through me. I truly believe in the power of sustenance through mindful awareness of the being state. I…
When there is a certain emotion that bubbles up so large than the present situation that it feels overwhelming, it is important acknowledge that the eventual interaction if this continues will end up being explosive and possibly unproductive. Bringing awareness to this urge to explode is the first step in…
The unsettling feel that arises when things are unclear of how it is is very familiar yet always a possibility to know that there is something I can do about it in the moment. Trying to identify what is it in this moment that is within my control helps understand…
Observing the thoughts, emotions and the urge to act on these thoughts and emotions while in the heat of the moment. This is the hardest as well as the most necessary skill to work on. This helps provide the pause that is needed before acting on that urge in the…
Engaging in self-care for grief has been monumental for me in the past. It takes a bit of mild movement combined with self-soothing activities such as crocheting or yoga. This way there is softening in the heart to cope with the heaviness of the grief. This helps to just breathe…
Understanding that sometimes I can be misattuned within my relationships helps me note that there is awareness brought to this autonomic experience as per Deb Dana in Polyvagal Theory in Therapy book. When there is a pause to reflect there is a sense of safety. Then, I get to understand…
Tolerating the distress of being productive all the time feels ominous especially when the depression hits hard. At that time getting up and taking care of ourselves feels like a chore. It is essential at that point to find some way to look at making that first step to reach…
Looking at unblending from our parts to let the self come through and utilize the calm, curiosity. To learn more about the struggles of the parts from the seat of consciousness. This is what I understand as the parallel role of the inner child reparenting technique that John Bradshaw details…
Feels like self-talk for sure for me when I bring awareness to the parts and talk to each of them. This is the checking in to ensure the parts internally concur on what’s to come in the next moment. It feels like we need to take a specific path, per…
Anger Phase of Grief The anger phase of grief is something that is fertile in sadness gripped with the frustration of the loss happening. Taking in all the impact of the loss. While not knowing where to show it but pour into the journal. This becomes a way of externalizing…