Observing the thoughts, emotions and the urge to act on these thoughts and emotions while in the heat of the moment. This is the hardest as well as the most necessary skill to work on. This helps provide the pause that is needed before acting on that urge in the…
Engaging in self-care for grief has been monumental for me in the past. It takes a bit of mild movement combined with self-soothing activities such as crocheting or yoga. This way there is softening in the heart to cope with the heaviness of the grief. This helps to just breathe…
Understanding that sometimes I can be misattuned within my relationships helps me note that there is awareness brought to this autonomic experience as per Deb Dana in Polyvagal Theory in Therapy book. When there is a pause to reflect there is a sense of safety. Then, I get to understand…
Tolerating the distress of being productive all the time feels ominous especially when the depression hits hard. At that time getting up and taking care of ourselves feels like a chore. It is essential at that point to find some way to look at making that first step to reach…
Looking at unblending from our parts to let the self come through and utilize the calm, curiosity. To learn more about the struggles of the parts from the seat of consciousness. This is what I understand as the parallel role of the inner child reparenting technique that John Bradshaw details…
Feels like self-talk for sure for me when I bring awareness to the parts and talk to each of them. This is the checking in to ensure the parts internally concur on what’s to come in the next moment. It feels like we need to take a specific path, per…
Anger Phase of Grief The anger phase of grief is something that is fertile in sadness gripped with the frustration of the loss happening. Taking in all the impact of the loss. While not knowing where to show it but pour into the journal. This becomes a way of externalizing…
Meeting with people especially strangers makes me want to run freely in open spaces. However when I end up doing it, it feels liberating and rewarding. So as, to feel the experience of a genuine smile or laugh shared. That is worth putting myself through the social awkwardness and let…
The fall season is a known time to rest and reset. Rest does not always need to be in a solitary state. This was something to acknowledge and learn especially for avoidant attachment styles. Knowing that rest and reset can also be done with social connections. By reaching out for…
Please check out the link to my latest training on South Asian Domestic Violence and Trauma. This training briefly highlights differences between Codependency vs Interdependency in South Asian culture, the importance of Learning to set Healthy Boundaries, taking on a Feminist Approach and Asking for One’s Needs Effectively. You may…