Staying present with the person we are speaking with helps calm and ground our nervous systems together before we begin the conversation. Knowing that there is a welcoming space for both parties in the conversation helps alleviate the nerves of having the conversation to begin with, sensing the warmth from…
As per Dr Jeffrey Schwartz, in his book, “Brain Lock”, he outlines a 4 step self-treatment method to consciously review one’s thoughts as a mindful observer to relabel. Then trying to reattribute one’s thoughts as part of their medical condition of OCD to separate themselves as a person away from…
Emotional Regulation: Setting up small achievable goals that feel like they are within the reach until the larger long term goal becomes more apparent in sight. This is how I alleviate my anxiety around the future or uncertainty in general. Making smaller steps to achieve the near term goals feels…
When there is a moment to notice that I’m able to take a step back and process what is coming up for me and reflect on the situation at hand, I know that I’m tapping into my problem solving strategies. This tells me I’m able to create that space for…
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Observing the thoughts, emotions and the urge to act on these thoughts and emotions while in the heat of the moment. This is the hardest as well as the most necessary skill to work on. This helps provide the pause that is needed before acting on that urge in the…
Understanding that sometimes I can be misattuned within my relationships helps me note that there is awareness brought to this autonomic experience as per Deb Dana in Polyvagal Theory in Therapy book. When there is a pause to reflect there is a sense of safety. Then, I get to understand…
There are empathy misses we encounter throughout the day that become more apparent to us. That’s when we slowly understand what it is to make meaningful connection with our loved ones. This is what I learned from Brene Brown’s book, “Atlas of the heart”. This is a great indicator of…
The fall season is a known time to rest and reset. Rest does not always need to be in a solitary state. This was something to acknowledge and learn especially for avoidant attachment styles. Knowing that rest and reset can also be done with social connections. By reaching out for…
Value of Breathing The value of breathing for getting that reprieve from the constant churn of doing and letting the being take over, feels essential at this time. Feels more important to focus on the breath and redo the need to refocus energy into the breath as things pile up…