Engaging in self-care for grief has been monumental for me in the past. It takes a bit of mild movement combined with self-soothing activities such as crocheting or yoga. This way there is softening in the heart to cope with the heaviness of the grief. This helps to just breathe…
Understanding that sometimes I can be misattuned within my relationships helps me note that there is awareness brought to this autonomic experience as per Deb Dana in Polyvagal Theory in Therapy book. When there is a pause to reflect there is a sense of safety. Then, I get to understand…
Tolerating the distress of being productive all the time feels ominous especially when the depression hits hard. At that time getting up and taking care of ourselves feels like a chore. It is essential at that point to find some way to look at making that first step to reach…
Looking at unblending from our parts to let the self come through and utilize the calm, curiosity. To learn more about the struggles of the parts from the seat of consciousness. This is what I understand as the parallel role of the inner child reparenting technique that John Bradshaw details…
Feels like self-talk for sure for me when I bring awareness to the parts and talk to each of them. This is the checking in to ensure the parts internally concur on what’s to come in the next moment. It feels like we need to take a specific path, per…
Sometimes the most effective approach to feel the hope is to set a small goal that seems achievable. Accomplishing that goal however small takes effort. Especially, when the rest of the world seems dark and heavy. Taking small measurable steps toward a larger goal. This is what helps set the…
Anger Phase of Grief The anger phase of grief is something that is fertile in sadness gripped with the frustration of the loss happening. Taking in all the impact of the loss. While not knowing where to show it but pour into the journal. This becomes a way of externalizing…
There are empathy misses we encounter throughout the day that become more apparent to us. That’s when we slowly understand what it is to make meaningful connection with our loved ones. This is what I learned from Brene Brown’s book, “Atlas of the heart”. This is a great indicator of…
Conscious Awareness When there is a subtle change in the way we perceive things we reiterate the importance of acknowledging the shift. This notice of shift persists. The awareness we bring to the subconscious process. Making it to the conscious awareness, the learning is immense of our own internal working…
Meeting with people especially strangers makes me want to run freely in open spaces. However when I end up doing it, it feels liberating and rewarding. So as, to feel the experience of a genuine smile or laugh shared. That is worth putting myself through the social awkwardness and let…